When Moving On Doesn't Sound Like Moving On But It Is
Thursday, October 13, 2016
You turn on the radio and there’s a rock song playing. You find yourself moving to the beat of the drums and getting all charged up playing air guitar to the solo like some retard. Smiling, you remember that this song was so much better live. Now where did you hear it live last…..
Oh.
Now you remember. You remember the sweet smell of beer and the pulsating lights. You remember the feel of condensation of the humid air on your skin. You remember how you looked at him and secretly hoped that he noticed you though you claim to not to want his attention.
It was in that bar and he was on stage playing the guitar with his band.
And if you told anyone about it, they'll say that it’s because you’re not truly over him. Listen to them long enough and you’ll eventually start questioning if you're really over him or you’re just in denial.
Trust me when I say it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy because all that you'll do is remind yourself everything that you love about him and eventually be unable to let go. I repeat, UNABLE to let go, not refuse to let go. There is a difference. I've been there, done that, you definitely don’t want to go back there. (For those nodding your heads, here's a fist bump.)
But let me tell you this,
not everything has to be about him. He may have been
the reason how you got to know that song, that
genre, or even that
bar.
But please,
please remember that
it is you who's enjoying the music,
moving to the beat and forgetting about being judged, that’s all YOU. YOU
get to claim that music, that passion
and all as
yours. Nobody can take that away from you...
unless you let them.
Being bound by that “great” relationship together,
have you forgotten that there is a 'you'? It may
no longer be something
that
'we' did together but you CAN go back to exclaiming like
before, “OMG I LOVE THIS THIS,
THIS AND, THIS!!!”
Moving on doesn’t mean erasing him from your life.
Moving on is to remember that more than ever, you’re in charge of creating your own happiness. Don’t let anyone take away that right.
Moving on means being able to enjoy your life independently.
Moving on is to not to be cold, to be heartless but instead, it is a sign of your emotional growth, to accept, to be happy for others, to be
able to let go, to move on, to fight for yourself, to love yourself enough to
want more, to not settle.
"I know that if
I fall in love with me,
I'll find someone
who will too."
- Leo Christopher
Edited with love by: Lena Leong
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