My Dating Must Haves
Tuesday, October 04, 2016
"Find someone.
Fall in love, give your soul.
Lose your soul, lose that love.
Find someone else."
- Allen Epley
There are more dating apps (Eg. Tinder, Paktor,
LunchClick, OkCupid, Happn, etc) popping up these days, honestly I can’t even
keep up. I started with Paktor last year, then Tinder this year and that’s it
for me! My interest in these apps dies off even faster than my interest in
Pokemon Go (which took about less than 2 months in case you’re wondering haha).
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There’s nothing wrong with dating.
Actually I think it’s important to start if you
haven’t yet. If you never put yourself out there, you’re never going to find
the one that suits you best. The qualities you think were important might not
be so once you start going on dates. And the ones you didn’t think were significant
could be the ones that mean the most to you.
He dates. She dates. Everyone dates. Even I
have my own share of a long dating history but that’s a story for another day!
I’m not going to dig my own grave by explaining
what is the definition of Dating. Instead, today I thought I’d list down my
must-haves for dates just because so many people have asked me this.
Disclaimer: These are MY must haves, so calm
down if you don’t agree with me. You don’t have to! We both have different
dating lives and different preferences. Set your rules for what you like! :)
1. ASK
Ask her out on a date goddammit. It’s not “Hey, wanna grab a drink/meal together” and neither is it “Hey, wanna hang”. It's "hey can I date you out next friday" or something along that line.
If you want go out on a date with her, at least
have the sincerity to ask and confirm that it IS a date and not treat it like a casual
chilling session. God knows the dating scene is so damn casual these days that
no one really put in the proper effort and sincerity needed.
Frankly, if you’re not declaring this as a
date, I’m just treating this as a meet-up with one of my buddies. #friendzoned
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Tip: When you declare it as
a date and she accepts, you avoid the Friendzone title for the time being.
2. PICK HER UP
If you can’t pick her up from her house, at least meet her at where she’s dropping off from her mode of transport!
Wait for her at the train station, at the taxi stand or at the bus stop at least. Don’t meet her at the restaurant or café directly.
3. MAKE A RESERVATION
Honestly, I only expect this for my first dates. But yes, making a reservation beforehand shows that you made an effort to think of a first date location instead of only thinking of one at the last minute.
DID YOU NOT ANTICIPATE OUR FIRST DATE
HOW CAN YOU NOT ANTICIPATE OUR FIRST DATE
HOW CAN YOU NOT ANTICIPATE OUR FIRST DATE
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Besides, I like a man with a plan :p
4. GET THE FIRST BILL
Yes, this is a stereotype that I support.
BUT BUT BUT
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Before I get slaughtered by anyone for saying
that, please know that I do believe in equality. Therefore this is how I make
up for it:
If there is a second date, I’m definitely getting
the next one. I swear by it. Score settled.
If he’s a nice guy but there isn’t any
chemistry for a second date, I’m getting the tab for drinks or I'll at least meet you another time to pay back my debt! Score settled.
If this date is so bad, then we’re going dutch and we're probably never meeting again
I believe strongly in good karma for my future
son hahahha
5. BE A GOOD OL’ FASHIONED GENTLEMEN
Open doors and let her through first. Pay attention to her and quit touching your phone. Let her stand on the inside of the paths by the road.
Be YOU on your best behavior ;)
Now I feel like a mom. HAHAHA
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6. OFFER TO SEND HER HOME
Just like how you guys like us to offer paying the first bill, offer to send her home as well. If by some reason you cannot, don’t keep her out too late especially if there were drinks after dinner!
I stay at the “other side of the world” as my
friends love to put it, so I understand when a guy can’t send me home. And honestly,
I always feel damn bad when they do so I rather they don’t. But it’s nice to
hear my date offering. That’s sufficient for me :)
7. DON’T WAIT
If the date went well and you're interested in her, don’t wait days later to ask her out. Ask her later in the evening when you thank each other for a lovely night whether you can see her again next _______(insert date).
If you dont, I just assume you're not interested and I'm moving on bro.
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Lastly, NUMBER 8 - DATE WITH A PURPOSE
Don’t just go out on dates because you have too much time on your hands. Date only if you are out looking for someone. Don’t waste each others’ time.
And if you’re not looking, don’t worry. Just enjoy
being single and bask gloriously in Singlehood. There’s nothing wrong with
that.
Just focus on you, use that time to work on yourself and grow as an individual.
Just focus on you, use that time to work on yourself and grow as an individual.
And when you're ready, get out into dating scene and take a chance! :)
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I'm curious about YOUR dating must haves ;) Let
me know what they are!
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